Give and Take for a Better World – “Balance for Better” (Part 1) –
The theme for this year’s International Women’s Day 2019, “Balance for Better” has so far been written on and discussed extensively. However, these deliberations and discussions need to continue such that the message truly permeates our thinking and begin to provoke and influence the desired change.
This title of this article include give and take. This is because for balance to be arrived at, there has to be a give and take. Hence, the word “Balance” gives a sense of trust, calmness, exchange, understanding, acceptance, inclusion, empathy, faith, and belief in the potential of every human person. This plays into the image of a weighing balance. You give and take to keep the weighing scale in balance.
“Think Balance!” because it all begins with your thoughts and what you believe.– LinEllah
A more balanced world is certainly a better world. We advocate for a world where females and males truly understand and integrate into their thoughts, beliefs and actions, the idea that everyone has something to bring forth and contribute.
Some gender biases are subtle and unconscious. You may not realize or even believe you have them. So, conscious efforts and decisions need to be made personally, and in corporate and government circles to see that no gender is neglected, belittled or left behind as regards any issue whatsoever. Certainly, two good and balanced heads are better than one. The male folks can’t do it all alone; neither can the female folks all alone. Together we excel and move onward.
Looking Inward for Balance
Any form of balance begins in the mind; thoughts are your starting point in everything. Look around you right this minute. Everything you see began with a thought and here it is now. What you think is what you birth forth in words, beliefs, attitudes and actions. With regards to gender balance, you and I have assimilated and accumulated certain beliefs and thinking patterns; we have certain beliefs about a man’s place and expected behaviours in relation to the woman, a lot of which is patriarchal and macho.
There are also acquired beliefs and practices by the woman and acquired behaviours related to how she sees herself in relation to the man. All these are so mixed up in stereotypical behaviours and expectations.
Surely, humans are too precious, free and uniquely created by God to be tied up in all such manners. Both sexes need to look inward in the search and desire for balance. In this piece, the call is to “Think Balance!” because it all begins with your thoughts and what you believe.
Conscious efforts and decisions need to be made personally, and in corporate and government circles to see that no gender is neglected, belittled or left behind-LinEllah
To the Woman:
How do you see yourself? Do you see yourself as someone who can achieve your dreams? Do you believe in yourself? Are you nurturing the self-confidence you need to take your rightful place wherever you desire to? First believe in yourself and then see how things become better for you. Do not keep looking down at yourself and always seeing others as better than you.
Know that you too are good; you are good enough; you have all it takes to be who you want to be and achieve all you want to achieve. Just allow that positive self-belief take shape in your mind and you will definitely become better!
To You Male and Female:
We each can look inward and reassess the subtle and unconscious biases we’ve acquired from our cultural and environmental baggage. The call here is to “Think Balance!” because it all begins with what you think and believe. As a male or female employer, boss, manager, supervisor, coordinator, this call is for you because you are directly in a position of influence to indeed “Balance for Better”.
Do you feel inwardly secure enough to give that female an equal space and opportunity to bring her contribution to the table? How do you deal with gender balance and equity? Let your efforts and decisions in this regard be one of your contributions towards a better world.
For both genders, we can each influence inclusion and integration of gender concerns at all levels of our social and human engagements and quest for a better society and nation. Within your sphere of influence, you can take into a lot more consideration the good values and contributions both genders have to offer to make the world better.
You can read Part 2 here
(To be continued on part 2 of 3)
- Linda Asimole Ellah
Linda A. Ellah is passionate about gender issues and shares her thoughts towards a better world. She is Founder and Coordinator of The Living Woman, a platform for women to focus on their personal growth towards fulfilling their purpose as they engage intentionally in their own growth journey daily. You can reach her on (+234 814 6779 226).
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